5 Simple Tricks to Activate Unlimited Confidence | Ep. 22

Confidence is a not-so secret weapon of the super-achievers. With it on your side, you can stop hand wringing over doubts and start pursuing your goals fearlessly.

What’s even better is that confidence creates a virtuous circle. The more confident you are, the more likely you are to explore your world and reach for goals. This leads to more adventures, develops new skills, and results in more achievement. These, in turn, create more confidence.

While personality and life experiences can affect the confidence you have now, there are things you can start doing today to improve it. And once you get the ball rolling, you’ll begin to build more and more confidence.

Chase (the Right Kind of) Fear

There is usually fear standing between you and your next big improvement in mastery over a skill. So you want to be on the lookout for fear. If you confront it, it can guide you to new levels of success.

Obviously, you want to pick the right kind of fear. Many fears are worth listening to, like staying inside during a terrible storm. But fear that stands between you and a new level of mastery? That’s the fear you are looking for.

Stop Apologizing for Your Skills and Success

Many of us have been led to believe that we should keep our skills and success to ourselves. We think talking positively about ourselves is bragging. This leads to talented people unable to promote themselves.

You don’t have to talk on and on about your abilities, but you do need to stop apologizing for them. Embrace them, and allow yourself to promote them when appropriate.

Stop Comparing Yourself

We can’t help but see a 22 year-old Bitcoin millionaire with a Ferrari and think, “Wow, I’m a failure.” But that kind of negative self talk builds up over time. It’s especially bad if you use social media, and scroll through images specially selected to make people’s lives seem happy, successful and full of good times.

There is only one fair comparison you can make: you in the past vs. you now. If you are working on yourself, you are doing great.

Find Out How to Help Others

A lot of people misunderstand confidence. They think it means being full of yourself. But really, the most genuinely confident people have put their own personal hang ups aside, allowing them to fully engage with helping others.

Helping others makes you feel good, builds genuine connections and focuses your thoughts on the positive. Plus, when you are busy helping others (while still taking time for self-care) you aren’t busy worrying about yourself.

Dress for Success

Have you ever slipped into a brand new dress or suit and instantly felt like a million bucks? Your posture improves, your smile widens, and when you look in the mirror, you see a better version of yourself.

The way we dress not only tells the world what to expect, it tells us what to expect from ourselves. Dressing powerfully is one of the quickest, most effective ways to create confidence instantly. You just need to match the dress to the context — a punk rocker’s big concert requires something a little different than a young lawyer’s first day on the job.

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